Why Addictive Apps Always Beat Helpful Ones

99% of the time

You’ve been on TikTok for 90 minutes without realizing it. Again. But you can’t maintain a three-day meditation streak to save your life.

You check Instagram compulsively, feeling worse each time, but your language learning app sits unopened for weeks. You doom-scroll Reddit until 2 AM, but can’t stick with the productivity system that’s supposed to fix your life.

This isn’t a willpower problem. This is a design problem.

I’ve spent over a decade designing apps that change behavior for health, wellness, and education. I’ve studied what makes people come back, what builds habits, what drives engagement. And here’s what I’ve learned: the apps that hurt you are structurally more powerful than the apps trying to help you.

This isn’t an accident. And it’s not because helpful apps are poorly designed. It’s because the most powerful engagement techniques are themselves inherently harmful, they contradict the core of “helpful” apps, and in most cases ethical designers won’t use them.

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